Support or Help
9th Jan,2021
Yesterday night while exchanging messages with a friend, my friend shared that her Dad was getting a pacemaker inserted today. I instinctively messaged that if she needs any SUPPORT she can give me a shout out.
Later on I reflected on this as to why I used the word SUPPORT and not HELP. Supporting vs Helping, we often use them interchangeably. But there is a visible difference. People are hardwired to want to do things on their own and be independent-minded. Asking for help often makes people feel uneasy because it requires surrendering control to someone else. Another fear is being perceived as needy. We Often feel help comes with obligations.
Whereas supporting someone is being fully committed to a person every step of the way, while allowing them to do their part in terms of making any changes necessary. Supporting another empowers them, as it comes from connecting to another as an equal and understanding that they have the power within them to rise above whatever is challenging them.
Saying to your loved ones that you are there to support them is better way of showing your love and affection than saying that you are there to help.
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